Am I In A Relationship Which May Lead To Battering?
Yes, you may be a battered person if you
- are frightened of your partner's temper
- are often compliant because you are afraid to hurt your partner's feelings or are afraid of your partner's anger
- have the urge to "rescue" your partner when your partner is in trouble
- find yourself apologizing for your partner's behavior when you are treated badly
- have been hit, kicked, shoved or had things thrown at you by your partner when your partner was jealous or angry
- make decisions about activities and friends according to what your partner wants or how your partner will react
- drink heavily or use drugs
- have been abused as a child or have seen a parent abused or battered
Yes, you may be a batterer if you
- are very jealous
- sulk silently when upset
- have an explosive temper
- frequently criticize and put down your partner
- have difficulty expressing feelings
- drink heavily or use drugs
- believe that it is your role to be in charge, or have contempt for the opposite sex
- are protective of your partner to the point of controlling their behavior, money, and decisions
- have broken things, thrown things at your partner, hit, shoved, or kicked your partner when angry
- were physically or emotionally abused by a parent
- have a parent who was abusive or a batterer
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